I read an interesting article in The NY Times that mentions someone who makes $1.2 million per year and is absolutely miserable. He finds his professional life unfulfilling and
Why? Because his life and lifestyle depends upon the $1.2 million in income. He can’t take a
In fact, his wife apparently laughed at the offer.
Your first reaction might be a sarcastic “oh, poor guy!!!! Only $600k per year! If I made that much money I’d be set!” Or maybe you’re angry at rich people problems. Perhaps you want to play him the worlds smallest violin.
Let’s go beyond that initial reaction, though.
I’ve seen plenty of people stuck in this same trap over my life. The trap of needing to work in a job they hate, that they find meaningless, with people they don’t like, doing things that bore them, for the money. And not for “survival” level money.
I’m talking more about professionals who make a good
They feel stuck.
Today I’ll reflect a bit on finding meaning in your work. And we’ll take a look at the problem of lifestyle inflation and the importance of living below your means at any income.
Lifestyle Inflation, The Insidious Beast
We all know the feeling. Somehow, even if we just got a raise, our spending rises up to meet it. Sometimes it’s
You get a bit more income each month, and then have one more meal out. Or you buy more books, go skiing, take some vacations, etc. – and all of a sudden it’s gone.
You don’t really feel as if your lifestyle has gone up that much. But indeed it has, its risen to meet your paycheck. And then you’re stuck in the same paycheck to paycheck cycle you always were. Until the next raise, where the cycle starts all over again.
The most difficult lifestyle inflation problem, that truly locks you in, is usually not variable expenses like eating out, clothing, vacations, or buying more consumer goods. It’s increasing your fixed expenses where cutting lifestyle becomes seemingly impossible.\
The expensive home, in an expensive neighborhood, which comes with expensive expectations as to furnishing and decoration. It’s the costly car that has even more costly maintenance and repairs. The vacation home or timeshare, boat (with docking fees, insurance and maintenance), or monthly/annual fees.
The key to breaking the chains of lifestyle inflation is, quite simply, to not inflate your lifestyle. In fact, you can look to deflate it, cutting expenses and debts out of your life. Only by focusing on this can you grow the gap between income and expenses, to save and invest for the future.
Why You Need To Break Your Chains
Simply put, being chained into your job is no good for you, no good for your family, and no good for your employer.
We spend most of our life at work. You’re there eight, ten, twelve or more hours of the day. If you’re working in a job that makes you miserable, feels meaningless, keeps you from your family, all in exchange for more consumer items-what kind of a life is that?
There’s more to life than the relentless pursuit of consumerism.
It’s no good for you because stress and unhappiness take their toll on you. It’s difficult to stay healthy, to be relaxed, get a good nights sleep, eat well, and so on if you’re stressed out 10+ hours of the day. How can you give your best to your family, and your life, if you’re miserable?
Your family wants you to be there with them. They want to spend time with you, and to have you be in a good place when you’re there. They don’t want you working all the time and miserable when you’re at home. Especially your kids.
Your employer doesn’t want miserable employees, either. We all find meaning in our work in different ways. Some of us find meaning in work that others aren’t fulfilled by. Unhappy employees miss work, aren’t as productive as they otherwise would be, and basically aren’t the best employees.
Finding Meaning In What You Do
I’ve talked before about the importance of finding meaning in your work. Is it OK just to work for a paycheck sometimes? Sure! Sometimes we do what we need to do to survive.
But you should seek to find some kind of meaning to your day, and if you can’t, I’d suggest moving into a position where you can.
I’m reminded of the parable of three men who were laying bricks:
Three people. All doing the same job. But one found meaning in his work that the other two did not see.
I’ve seen this play out in my own workplace. I work in insurance, which many people consider boring. Some consider it meaningless. But I see the deeper meaning in what we do.
Everyone in the company is doing something to help people at some of the worst parts of their lives. Insurance is there to protect people from losses that would otherwise be financially devastating.
Even when I’m managing a very technical project, and especially when I get mired in
And you know what? I’ve found that focusing on the deeper meaning of work also motivates others. Sometimes folks will get so wrapped up in internal minutia they need a reminder of why we do what we do.
So if you’re miserable, try reflecting on the real mission of your work. Who benefits in the end from what you do? How is what you’re doing benefiting them?
Even if your role seems internal, or insignificant, I can assure you it isn’t. Everyone in a company plays a part in the end mission of what you do.
You spend most of your life at work. If you’re
This is where your lifestyle is key. If you’re stuck in your job you hate because you’re dependent upon the money, you don’t have that option.
If you’re feeling stuck, you’re really not. You have options. You may not like those options. They may be difficult. But they’re there, and you can decide to exercise them or not.
What kinds of options am I talking about? Well, if you’re unhappy with your work, you can:
Go back to school in a different field
In fact, after one of my
I know a former co-worker who used his day job as a safety net as he totally changed careers from project management, to becoming a professor. It took some time, but today he teaches in a field that he used to work in.
Start a business
There’s another former co-worker (I’ve worked a long time now) that left her high-paying job shortly after her son was born to start a bookstore.
Change teams – or employers
Sometimes things at your company just aren’t working out. Or occasionally your company is fine, but your team just isn’t working out for you. You can switch both those things, although it isn’t necessarily easy and may take some time.
Live a different kind of life
Some people are looking not for a small change, but for a different type of life. Maybe one where they work part of the year, and travel the rest of the year. One where one parent can stay at home and the family lives on a single income. Or it could be one where you move to a totally different town, live in an RV, or something else unconventional.
Money gives you the freedom to choose these options.
If you don’t have the money to leave work and go back to school, to take a
And if you earn a good living, you’re likely stuck because your lifestyle has risen to meet your income.
So what do you do about lifestyle inflation?
Prevention Is The Best Cure
Once your lifestyle is already inflated, change is difficult-and may seem impossible. This is where prevention is the best cure.
If you already own the expensive home in the costly
If you already own the costly SUV, with expensive maintenance and gas, you again need to sell and buy a new vehicle. If you’re all used to a roomy SUV with all the fancy upgrades, you and your family are going to be somewhat unhappy downsizing to an older car. Possibly very unhappy.
Getting rid of a boat might be one of the happiest dates of boat ownership, but it’s still a hassle. Cutting down on eating out feels restrictive, and
It’s so much easier on you and your family if you don’t inflate your lifestyle to start with.
When you get a
But what if it’s too late for that?
What If You Need A Cure?
“Ok Liz,” you’re thinking, “prevention would have been nice 5, 10, 15 years ago, but it’s too late. I’m already living at or above my means. My paycheck is gone as soon as it hits, I’m behind on retirement, I’m staring down a barrel of kids college, and I’m in debt. I’m miserable and I want a different life, but I’m stuck. What do I do?”
If you find yourself here, I would first recommend a cold hard look at your life and money. Find where you want to go. Then you can use your money to get you there.
Money is a tool. It can help you achieve
You can give it the power to transform your life.
You need to set your life on a solid financial foundation to give yourself the freedom to make changes. It really boils down to first figuring out where you are and where you want to go, then doing the work to get there.
You can check out more in my financial freedom section on the steps I recommend to find freedom in your financial life.
The Power Of Financial Freedom
To me, financial freedom isn’t necessarily about retiring from your job.
It’s about the freedom to do what you
It’s the ability to lead a different kind of
The freedom to fight for what you think is best at your work, without needing to worry about politics or losing your job.
The ability to pursue a role or job at a company that might not pay as much, but brings you
You can be free to head back to school, to start the business you’ve always dreamed of, to head into a different employer
It can be the simple freedom you find from not needing to go for the big promotion, raise, or bonus. And
Finding happiness in what you already have, and needing/wanting less overall can set you free.
7 thoughts on “When a Paycut to $600k Per Year Seems Impossible”
We definitely have the costly fixed expenses. Mortgage and daycare eat up quite a lot of our paychecks every month. Luckily the daycare expense won’t last for more than 5 more years. I don’t think we let too much other lifestyle inflation happen (our cars are over a decade old) and we don’t go on expensive vacations or anything.
I suppose if we had lower paying jobs we’d have to reevaluate our housing and childcare situation but at this point in time we don’t think we’ll make big changes.
Such a good point about the crazy high fixed expenses. Sure you can cut back significantly – eventually – as long as you aren’t upside down in your home, as long as you can then sell said home, etc. Even with the best focus you either have to be very lucky or in it for the very long haul.
I’m with you – I’ll go with prevention.
I’ve heard the happiest two days in a boat owner’s life are the day the boat is purchased, and the day it is sold.
Lifestyle creep is so insidious, it’s hard to see it happening until you realize you are a slave to your job. It’s difficult to imagine that someone who earns half a million to a million dollars a year could be living paycheck to paycheck, but it happens!
I thought it was funny you talked about an unhappy earner of 1.2 million. A year after I retired early I was offered that exact sum to go back to a 9 to 5 similar to what I retired from. I never made nearly that much during my work years, but I also told the recruiter there was no way I was trading in this life for that one for 1.2 million dollars. Being financially independent means you can say no. Man, that felt good.
It seems crazy that someone can’t live off $600k per year, but lifestyle inflation is real and easy to fall into if you are not paying attention.
I like the idea of finding the deeper meaning in what you do. I help people save money, which would be a much better way for me to look at my job, I think.
I’m doing my best to combat lifestyle inflation. Much easier with the husband gone, I’m finding. One less person to buy for — and to be tempted to buy for.
I like to keep the deeper meaning in mind as much as I can-that perspective helps motivate me when things get hard