I mentioned last week in my post wondering whether you splurge or go frugal on work travel that I just came back from a week-long business trip. Back when my youngest son was a baby, I traveled to a conference in San Diego for a week, while he was still nursing. I’ve been traveling for work now for years, for periods of time ranging from a very long day to a week, and I’ve never felt guilt about it. But traveling for work when you’re a mom can be difficult, guilt-ridden, and sometimes impossible for moms – so I thought I’d address it head-on today.
Traveling For Work as a Breadwinning Mom
First things first – my work travel situation and perspective isn’t the same as many other moms. That’s because I have a husband who’s a stay at home dad, and who’s more than willing to watch the boys for a few days or a week (or even a few weeks) so I can go on a business trip. Back when he worked part-time, my mother, mother-in-law, and grandmother all helped to watch the boys while I was traveling for work. So this story will be about work travel from my perspective, which I recognize is unique.
After all, if you’re a single mom or don’t have a supportive spouse/family nearby, traveling for work could be impossible-or at a minimum extremely difficult. There’s almost no after-hours childcare available, and overnight child care is nearly impossible to find. Depending on the age of the child, you might need someone to watch and care for them 24/7, or perhaps someone to bring them to activities and school while you’re traveling. That’s a lot to ask of someone, so arranging for more than an occasional trip can be very hard.
There’s also a large range of travel demands for different types of jobs, different companies, and different roles. If you’re a consultant you may travel for almost every week out of the year. On the other hand, if your entire team is located in the same building you may never need to travel. It might involve just a day trip to a location a few hours away, or it can mean flying overseas for several weeks. In my case, I don’t travel too much. I frequently go to a different office which means a slightly longer commute, but usually only have a few longer trips each year. This year I’ve had two longer trips – one to PA and one to FL, each a week long.
So what’s so special about work travel as a breadwinning mom? Only that I have more flexibility to do so since my husband is a stay at home dad, and that my traveling is less disruptive than some other moms doing so since my husband does so much of the work at home. I’m not the one who does the after-school activities or school drop-offs and pick-ups. So when I’m gone, the routine isn’t changed very much.
This flexibility isn’t something I take for granted. If you’ve been reading my articles for a while, you’ll know that my husband almost died of septic shock several years ago. Back when he was sick, or when he was recovering from one of his several surgeries, I wouldn’t have been able to travel. In face there was a year-long period where traveling would have been impossible. He was not only in the hospital and rehabilitation for a month, but then had multiple appointments/therapies to attend. He had other surgeries requiring months of not being able to drive-much less care for the boys. So I’m very familiar with life situations where you can’t travel, and I’m grateful that at my work travel is almost always an option-not a requirement.
Moms Traveling for Work – Don’t Assume – Ask!
Travel for work is a big area where many folks make assumptions about moms that they really shouldn’t. Yes, there are many moms who can’t – or don’t want to – do significant work travel. However, there are also many moms out there who would love the opportunity. They may have a stay at home spouse or a very supportive family, and love the opportunities traveling brings.
I’ve had people assume before that I don’t want to take international work trips because I’m a mom. Um, no. I once went to France for two weeks and China for ten days as part of my MBA program – and my husband watched the boys that whole time. I certainly wouldn’t mind an international trip for work. I’ve always appreciated the folks that asked, rather than assumed, whether I would travel somewhere. After all, if I was a man with a family at home, I don’t think people would be assuming I didn’t want to travel.
Traveling for work can be disruptive regardless of gender. No one should assume a man wants to travel, and at the same time, no one should assume a mom doesn’t want to. After all, that man could be a single dad, or be the caregiver for a family member at home, or maybe he simply hates flying.
How is work travel disruptive? It upends your entire routine. It’s also not fun, and it’s not as glamorous as it sounds. I distinctly remember in the first few years of my career, I was so jealous of people who had one of those cool jobs where they got to travel all the time. Now that I’ve been in the workforce over a decade, I know that traveling all the time gets tiring – and there’s nothing glamorous about airports.
Why Is Work Travel Important For Your Finances?
In my particular industry and company, higher level positions almost always require some level of travel a few times per year. Whether to another work site (I work at corporate headquarters), a conference, training, a meeting, or something else, the higher up you go in the company, the more frequently you would be tapped to travel. So at least in my company, not being able to travel would put you at a significant disadvantage in competing for higher-level jobs. And of course the more money you make, the faster you can grow the gap between your income and expenses-and the faster you can reach financial freedom.
Does this mean it’s impossible to get a higher level job if you don’t travel for work? Of course not. There are plenty of positions that require no travel-or even let you work from home. There are also lots of other companies with similar positions that require no travel. As I mentioned at the start, work travel requirements vary a lot between company, position, and role.
So although traveling for work can be important for your career, it’s not a must-do. If it’s not possible-or not desirable-for you then you can almost certainly work around it.
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